Confidence does not require any effort

It took me some time to realise the connection between confidence and effort. As an ex corporate and wellness freelancer for the last 10 years, self confidence has been the fuel for my success and bread earning. As a matter of a fact I believe that self confidence is an essential quality of having value and it helps our authentic self to manifest.

So I have worked in many ways to build up this state of trust in my power, in my worthiness. I worked really hard to learn how to be confident around people and to project a confident image of myself. I also learned how to confidently receive people’s feedback without letting it take me down. So I learned networking presentation skills, self-love and self-compassion, applied energy work, core activations and I can go on.

They all helped but nevertheless my self confidence still required a big effort. I kept learning about self confidence but the inner experience of this value was still feeling weak in my very deep core, leaving space for self doubt and unworthiness. If I would be thinking about it then I would feel confident. But the moment I would try to feel, to be spontaneous, to connect with people than self confidence would not be so easy to feel. Every time I had to meet my bosses, meet a new group of students, or start a new project, then I would put a lot of effort to bring my self confidence on board and achieve the success and recognition. I felt that life required a lot of effort and I would often feel exhausted at the end of the day. Many times I would not even have enough energy to get through the say. I would need plenty of time for myself to relax and rebalance. And if I would actually tune in with myself I could feel the insecurity and feeling inadequacy sneaking in.

So after years of trying to educate myself to be someone self confident it became so exhausting that I could not take it anymore. I finally chose to look at the pain that I was hiding from all these years. I learned about the multiple layers of conditioning that were keeping me locked in “not being enough”. I learned to feel and process emotions through my body and in this way making space for the life force to emerge in a soft and natural way. I learned to be with my insecurity and understand it. Finally it became comfortable. And in the end it transformed into effortless self confidence. I relearned my value and I have discovered a relaxed and stress free way of living. This journey has helped me to help my clients find their inner value and effortless self-confidence. It is a 10 week journey where we are following a systematic and gradual approach of peeling away the layers covering our Essence of Will. We end up reconnecting with the experience of relaxed confidence and ease in life through learning presence and how to be fully here for one self.