Feeling is our superpower

Most of us know that we use only 10% of our brain capacity, that we have far greater capacities of intelligence, understanding and connection with the world around us. But we do not really know what these are. Very short, our brain has different languages in which it can operate like sound, vibration, volume-density-space, feeling or sensing, speech, visual space and others. We can understand and connect with the world around us trough these languages when we are interested to access the wider capacities of our brain. However traditionally we are training mainly the thinking and capacity of our brain. And traditionally we are also taught to use thinking intentionally, in a directed and controlled way (e.g. “we need to produce something with our thinking”). It is a challenge for many of us to use languages of our brain that require a passive and receptive attitude from us.

And here I will talk about the ability of feeling, sensing and vibration. These languages work together well many times. As new born babies our bodies are soft and fragile. We can sense soft touch and even the emotions of our parents. It is also well researched that babies in the womb absorb the emotions of their mothers and they are very much influenced by these emotions and vibration that they can sense. Emotions and sensing go together. An emotion creates a sensation in our body and sensations in our body create emotions. The vibrations and sensations cause in the body are store in our cells memory but we are not aware of these sensations anymore. In time, with events in our life, education, hobbies, environmental and ecological changes, nutrition or age our bodies become heavier and harder and our ability to feel becomes less simple and pleasurable. And here are several reasons why.

We have been taught that being ourself is wrong. When we were crying or being angry, when we wanted to be spontaneous and do something silly, when we want to play in the middle of the living room and so on… We are being told “no”. Most of our childhood we’ve heard “not like this”, like this. Our instinctual nature is being slowly turned off and we tune into listening to the “higher ones around us”. Without going into what this does to our relationship with authority, it is valuable to notice that we do not learn to trust our feelings, we are not taught to express freely what we feel and underlying we learn that listening to our emotions and our raw nature is wrong. Ultimately we learn that “there is something wrong with us” and that we need to be told or given rules about “how to correct”. As a result we abandon our instincts and raw nature. As a result we are gradually feeling less and less in our bodies. We can start to practice sports and make our bodies do pretty things and develop a personality that seeks to cope with our parents’ rules. And we still feel something but it is not as simple and pleasurable as before, it becomes complicated and not always pleasant.

With friends, in couples, in family, at work, we live through roles models and ideals. We live with the impressions that if we do not live these ideals we will not be accepted and appreciated by others. We are replicating the same paradigm since childhood. Being ourselves is wrong, we need to look outside to find the right way to be. This cuts us even more from our authentic nature and freedom of being. The social stress is probably one of the most damaging to mental health these days. So we push ourself into feeling happy and always being fine, we push our bodies into performing remarkable athletic performances or stunning yoga postures, hoping for a release of serotonin that will help us feel relaxed and ready to take in more stress. I call this a trap because it keeps pulling us out from how we truly feel, from how really are. This shuts down our ability to know what is truly good for our bodies, to make choices that favour our health, wellbeing and effortless happiness and relaxation. It cuts us off from our intuition and from the ability to see beyond the appearances. And what is more worrying is that when someone becomes chronically tired or overwhelm or burnout, or depressed or with unexplainable anxiety, we think “they are not ok”… “there is something wrong with them”… Placing even more pressure and stigma over feeling themselves. People in with autoimmune, unspecific physical conditions, mental or emotional conditions are people who’s bodies cannot take the bypass anymore. Their nervous systems cannot function anymore in a state that is not natural theirs. There is nothing wrong to them. I would argue quite the opposite, they are probably more normal than the rest of us… since they have no choice but to attend to what is actually happening to their bodies and emotions. And I stand for not needing to become chronically ill to start feeling your body and emotions.

There is a similar phenomenon that I noticed from my own experience and others in the spiritual world. The idea that you are spiritual wen you love all the time and everyone. This pressure can create situations when we avoid to feel how we truly feel. We develop ways to move our bodies to create states of love and wellbeing but there are many situations when physical or emotional pain is actually increased. And those are moments when we can keep pushing and we actually disconnect from our bodies and true nature. In time it can produce challenges of finding a place in the world, enjoying harmonious relationships with others and making a living for one self.

Intense spiritual or traumatic experiences. These days many of us are ready for more and seeking more expansive, awakening and exotic experiences of ourselves. I will add here accidents, tragic events, loss, bankruptcy or any other endangering situations. Extreme emotional experiences, positive and negative, can actually disconnect us from our bodies and how we truly feel. When the intensity is too high (many times ayahuasca or intense energetic experiences), positive or negative, we do not have the ability to process that information. It is simply too much for our nervous system and as a result we end up either locked in one state or completely disconnected from feeling.

Fear and the world state. When we listen to the state of the world today we rarely hear good news… The news themselves are a source of continuous alarm. The political outlook, the wars and conflicts, the climate change, the state of our food, the traveling changes, viruses, the whole world seems like a place that is not right anymore, that is not safe, that it does not protect us anymore. This is inducing continuous fear and mistrust into our systems, we become subconsciously preoccupied with survival even when our life is better that we imagined. This process urges us to act and make plans and safety strategies, while we forget to truly feel and see what is actually real for us and what is not.

Being disconnected from our ability to feel is being disconnected from our deeper intelligence, instinct, premonition and intuition. It keeps us trapped in a life that does not make us fulfilled. We are doing so many effort to be happy and we cannot truly be happy. We need to go in retreats, do yoga, meditation, massages and maybe we have some moments of peace and happiness. But most of the time the baseline is not happiness.

My journey back to feeling has healed depression, add, a life long chronic back pain, relationships and the life I live. My clients also discover tremendous recoveries of their bodies and their life once they reactivate their ability to feel. We discover more understanding of what is actually going on, it feels like our eyes are being opened and our plans and journeys are speeding up. It is like we have a top up intelligence and energy pack that helps us redesign our life effortlessly. The journey back to feeling start with reconnecting the ability to feel in the body together with understanding the ideas and conventions that are keeping us numb or reluctant to feeling. I find that people gain a deeper sense of confidence, a relaxed confidence and a non demonstrative self esteem. For my corporate clients these translates in gravitas, they develop more gravitas. People whom have went through these processes with me have discovered how to live their life with less effort and more satisfaction while others have managed to overcome blockages or painful situations that were keeping them back. When we reactivate the body’s ability to sense and integrate vibration, we become aware of a lot more than we thought we did. And it is also a process that serves our day to day life while in time it grows our ability to connect deeper with people, take faster and better decisions, gain inspiration and creativity, easier solutions to life situations, new outer or inner resources becoming available, embrace courage and enthusiasm.

Feeling, sensing and connecting with the emotions in our body is part of our nature as humans. We all have this function in our bodies, why would we disconnect from it? The world rules and lifestyles should not have any impact to shut down our bodies and numb our brains. We are meant to keep growing through our reactivating our body and mind capacities.